This is the media and advertising version of success. I see people wrapped up in the idea that success is just what you describe, and that love to a partner is selfish. I see that selfishness in the divorces of famous people, and I saw that selfishness in the break-ups of high school couples. The "wall flower" breaking up with the "social butterfly" or the "community activist," with the attitude that the "dated one" just doesn't have time for me.